Comments on: Married? Yeah, to my job.

By: Fin

Fin — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 04:58:31 +0000

Where is the line drawn? Where is the point where life becomes imbalanced? My therapist always says, “Respond, never react.” This job IMO is always a test in how someone needs to remember to “Respond, never react.” How easy it is for me to forget my emotional patterns especially whenever a stimulus comes along where I need to “Respond, never react.” Because I have done that my whole life.

My life has been a road of older siblings and parents who were “control freaks.” I get out into the workforce and sure enough, more “control freaks.” I never usually take what my Dad has to say to heart, but one thing he reminded me of is the world is ran by one emotion, fear.

By: Rich G.

Rich G. — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 02:59:54 +0000

An idea I needed to go into more… perhaps in a future post: “talk about it to someone who can actually do something about it.”

I do not mean grousing to co-workers or employees or people who can’t do anything about it. Just complaining doesn’t help things and actually hurts I believe. But opening a dialog inasmuch as it’s allowed with someone in a position to effect change on the thing that’s bugging me… that’s not gossip. That, I think, is something a responsible adult does when something is bothering them.
.-= Rich G.´s last blog ..Married? Yeah, to my job. =-.

By: Rosa Say

Rosa Say — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 22:28:24 +0000

Well now Rich, when you commented for me over at SA (thank you for doing so!) you wrote,

So much food for thought here. This is going in my pile of things in the folder called "Blog Food."

and I can say the very same thing for this follow-up you wrote! There is so much here, and I may be seizing yet another “tag, you’re it” from this after sitting it with a while... Meanwhile, and not to tease or keep you in suspense, this is what tugs at me most due to your posting: 1. the relationship complexity we can have with our business (or our work). Got a funny email from another reader who preferred to comment on “What if your business got sick?” privately, and in part, she wrote, “for me, the question is ‘animal, vegetable or mineral.’” 2. the stewardship of workplace culture requires a lot of work, but when it is good, it leaps ahead to really good and outright great, leaping relatively quickly. Managers must put forth that stewardship effort, realizing that others in a company actually deliver the tangible stuff specific to a company’s mission and/or vision: They deliver the culture which gives it all fertile ground (or the sad desolation of a vast wasteland.) As you said to me, Thank you for the brain-food! .-= Rosa Say´s last blog ..What if your business got sick? =-.