simplerich

I’m not sure what to do with this place. I’ve got posts out there. I’ve got them here and on my blogger blog and there are readers both places but Google+, somewhere I haven’t been more than  months I don’t think I have more readers and more interaction already than on both of my blogs combined.

I like the idea of my own blog, but the reality is I like interaction and readers and I have a LOT more of those, engaged readers, on Google+ than I have on either blog.

It’s the engagement of the readers that’s attracting me. Granted, I’m pretty careful about who I circle, and while over 2k people follow me I don’t follow that many at all. I’m just over 300 that I read, but I add more all the time, and sometimes remove people. There’s such a feeling of community, of conversation, of participation on Google+ I find I’ve spent far more time there than here.

I need to figure out what’s going to happen next obviously. Mirroring or merely importing those posts to here is a possibility but it seems like it’s diluting things. If you’re on Google+ look me up. If you’re not… the conversation there is absolutely incredible.

Jesup is my room mate’s cousin. I don’t know him well enough to say we’re friends yet but he’s not only really interesting, he’s going something really interesting and blogging about it so people can read all about it over at the aptly named Jesup’s Blog.

He’s a 20+ Iowan teaching in Chile. Here’s the thing… he went down there and THEN looked for a job! If you’ve read the 4-Hour Workweek I think it was? It suggests that the best way to see the world is GO where you want to go and get a job there. Become a local and see the sights. I hope I got that right. It seems especially timely with the death of Steve Jobs and his oft replayed and shared 2005 commencement speech at Stanford University.

(If you haven’t seen it go watch it. It’s worth it.) Jesup seems to be following Steve Jobs’ advice to do what he’s passionate about and it’s paying off in a rich and interesting story that he’s living. Go give him a read, add him to your news feed and let his example inspire you.
 

I’m over on google+ and invite you to circle me if you’re over there. It’s NOT just another Facebook, or just another twitter in my experience. There’s more content, more community, and more discussion. It’s still growing and this morning I wrote this over there and thought I’d share it with you over here as well.

I find myself going to things like group.as and wondering what group I want to be a part of… where to look for like-minded people… then I find myself wandering off… the little snippets of description aren’t enough to hook me so I wind up not using it.

I find I’ve no time at all for the Seth G.’s and Guy K.’s and Robert S.’s out there any more. In the same way Kim Kardashian is famous for making a sex tape and then claiming to be a celebrity I find these three famous for… I don’t know what. I know I’m the only one, but it seems like if the three of them talked about why Downy fabric softener is blue within a week there would be a million thought pieces about it on the internet and I don’t find the things they talk about interesting. They plant seeds that others pick up and re-plant just because they are who they are, and don’t seem to pay much attention to what they’re saying and their qualifications for saying what they say is that they’ve said so much before that other people have listened to and parroted. I know that’s unkind, but I can’t get past that feeling I get from them.

I wonder if every morning they wake up feeling like they’re playing a part… being a character created by our perceptions of them and hoping like hell that they can keep running long enough…. because the rest of the Internet follows them so they’ve got a perfect Papier-mâché backside but the front is all just bamboo framework holding it all up, an empty facade that they go to sleep at night praying nobody notices.

Perhaps once they were fresh and new and exciting and that’s why people followed them, but now… now I don’t get that feeling. I didn’t like them then either though… they’ve always seemed affected, put on, like an act.

I’m sure they’re wonderful people underneath the Internet personae that they’ve cultivated. I just don’t click with them at all. When I find myself following a link that winds up at their place I close the tab. I just can’t be bothered to get caught up in the cult of personality they have built around themselves…. did they build it on purpose? Did it happen accidentally and then the beast was so big they didn’t know how to stop it? I can’t imagine it was an accident, but I can’t imagine anybody setting out to have as their job “personality” either. It just feels creepy and needy to me… and vaguely unhealthy.

Their words carry weight not because of their content but by virtue of who said them. That is troublesome to me… That’s the short version.

I’m an introvert. I’m very shy and I don’t think I’m good at meeting people or talking to them in social settings. Professionally this doesn’t seem to bother me much as I’m able to talk to people with whom I work and with people at work just fine. It’s a comfort zone thing. At work or related to work I’m fine. No worries at all. I’ll approach complete strangers with ease, figure out where they fit in with my work, find a point of commonality and strike up a conversation. I’ve done it at dinner parties, conventions, trade shows, and just working day to day. No sweat.

The sweat comes in when I’m not working. When I’m just me and I’m dumped into a social situation where I know the people who invited me but nobody else. I’m awful at those things. They’re exactly the same as the work situations in numbers of people or how well I know them… but my comfort level is off. Suddenly I’m no longer chatty or friendly or smiling. I’m stand-offish, and could just as easily stand in a corner, sip a drink until it’s gone, find the host, thank them for the invitation and sneak out the door after having “made an appearance.” What I’m describing isn’t rare either. It’s really normal social behavior for me. I don’t know why it’s so different. I’m confident, social, affable, and outgoing at work functions. Throw me in with non-work people though and I’m an awkward self-conscious wall flower.

Podcasts. I really like podcasts. I drive a lot for work so I listen to a lot of them. One of my favorite episodes was from Lisa B. Marshall, the Public Speaker from Quick & Dirty Tips. She talks about how to talk to people. She talks about her Mom starting to talk to people in line at the grocery store and how mortified she was by it. I’ve started trying to do this. It’s a little thing, a silly thing, a safe thing. Nobody gets better at something without practicing it so I’ve been practicing my chatting people up out in public with strangers. That way if I botch it I won’t embarrass myself in front of people I know. My hope is that this will help when I get to the next social function I attend that’s not work related. With the practice under my belt, and the confidence of having done this before in non-work related venues I’ll be able to do it a little better with people I will probably see again, and hopefully for more than just “making an appearance.”

So, if you’re shy or reticent to just jump into a social setting give this podcast a listen. Then, most importantly, practice it on people you’ll never see again.

The latest sensational “The Internet is going to steal my crap” wave is here in the name of pleaserobme.com and no… I’m not linking there. I think the site is ridiculous as is the concept.

Here’s the idea. It harvests information off twitter from social sites like gowalla.com and foursquare.com that people use to “check in” to places when they go eat, shop, tour, whatever. The two sites use the phone’s GPS to show where you are and you can collect badges by visiting places. What pleaserobme does is gather into one spot when people FROM a certain area, say Austin, TX are checking into somewhere. The idea is if they check into starbucks then they are obviously NOT at home. So… using the gowalla.com and foursquare.com sites is the same as saying to the world, “please rob me.” Or at least that’s what the folks at the site want you to think.

They’re onto something. What they’re onto is that in the US right now, since 9/11, fear sells and business is good. The idea that Bad Guys are sniffing the twitter stream to see when someone goes to McDonalds’s so they can go bust into their house is ridiculous.

• It doesn’t say that NOBODY is home, just the one who is posting that they aren’t home.
• Bad guys have always been able to tell by if your sidewalk is scooped, grass mowed, lights on/off, mail picked up etc. if someone is home or not. This isn’t new or as effective as ANY of the old ways.
• If your twitter profile gives your street address you were an idiot before this site existed, and not because you’d get robbed but because you don’t put your real life address out there on the internet for safety’s sake ever. That’s just stupid. People who “check in” to their own homes… they’re the ones who are saying please rob me, attack me, go stare at my kid’s through their windows. Not the people who say “I’m at McDonald’s”

So, before you call all your relatives and tell them that the social GPS game sites are going to get their house robbed, calm down a little, take some deep breaths, go check in at a Starbucks and tweet them to meet you there. If they’re friends with you on foursquare or gowalla.com they’ll know where you are and can meet you there. If you’re worried about your friends breaking into your house while you’re away maybe you should get a better class of friend.

Commons sense tips for using the GPS enabled social-web.

1. Don’t ever GPS identify your house or your friends and families homes.

OK. Any questions?

This post prompted by the usually sane Solo-Technology blog and my guess is sometime this week he’ll not be home because he’ll be at work during the day while his wife is at work and his kids are at school… he lives in the Denver area knock yourselves out!

EDIT: I should clarify: I don’t mean to imply the author of Solo-technology is an old woman. I’ve met him and he’s an old MAN. lololol. His post about the site is what I’m referring to. I don’t believe he’s hysterical or over-reacty. (No, not a word I know.) But the topic he’s blogged about has been over-sensationalized by others out there and I’m not linking to them because I don’t want to give them any link-fu. I won’t link to hacks or nutjobs… that’s why solo-technology got the link.